I recently took a short FB vacation. These are the top 5 things I learned–
5. It was much needed & long overdue.
When you’re a SAHM AND a home-based business owner, that runs much of it through social media pages etc, it is very easy to fall down the rabbit hole and never get out. Otherwise known as ‘take a break’.
I’ve wanted to take one for sometime, but always felt guilty for doing so. This time I gave myself the break, guilt free.
4. I love my job and more importantly the people I work with.
Don’t get me wrong, the social media escape was great, but it sure made me extra grateful for the gift Young Living has given me–and it’s far greater than just oils. The people it’s brought into my life are the real blessing. Many were already friends or family, but others were put here on purpose, to give me more purpose. I couldn’t do or have this life without them. They see a need within our group and they get to work helping in any way within their capacity. They are more like family. They understand when others don’t and although I have loved many other ‘co-workers’ in previous jobs–they are the best! The icing on the cake of awesome! What other job allows you to take a break and get paid while doing so? The beauty of multi-level marketing is that the work can continue even when I can’t. Just one of its many perks!
3. My children are even more cool than suspected.
This was probably my biggest reason for taking said break. Although the hardest job, it is my #1 job. I would like to say that I’ve been putting them first for the passed few years, but the truth is I haven’t. I absolutely had to hustle hard to get us to the spot where I can. It is long overdue and with some sadness & guilt that I admit that.
I always wanted to be a mom, but it’s hard to be the best when we were constantly struggling and worrying how we were going to pay the next bill. Once I realized YL could give us the life we had always dreamed of, I went to work to get it. However, we all know life & kids is never that simple. It. Has. Been. Hard. To say there hasn’t been A LOT of struggles, worries, arguments, etc. would be a lie. However, I wouldn’t change it. It has all brought me to a place where I feel much better about taking the time that’s wanted & needed for our boys. After all, they are my life’s most important work. They keep me grounded, yet make me always dream for more. They are my purpose. They also happen to be turning into pretty cool human beings before my eyes and I don’t want to miss it. YL will always be here and I will never have to retire from it. Looking at the big picture, they are only with me for a short while, I want to enjoy making memories(good & not-so good) without so much worry. Without so much fear. The thing about babies & kids, is they don’t keep. They grow even when we don’t want them to.
2. Relationships are the essential mess in life.
Let me start by saying that I could write a book on this subject.#futureblogpost
16 years with Adam and every chapter has its own unique story within. Some have been downright messy, some have been more than great, and others plain hard. Taking a break from FB life sure made me remember why I’m so grateful I never had to start having relationships when technology & social media were the norm. However he did ask me if I wanted to go to dinner over AOL. Lol
I cant reiterate enough how important it is to unplug and put down the phone, computer etc, and plug back into your significant other. It is so easy to become complacent and let it go, when in reality we need to make those relationships the number one priority for all else to work smoothly. I’m a work in progress obviously. Adam is my rock and also my reason for being. Even above our kids. We sure don’t make it easy on each other a lot of the time, as he’s also my reason to question my own sanity at times. Relationships are unusual like that. Although I often resist it, the closer we get, the more I become me. I’m not sure I would like me as much without him. He compliments me like no other. He knows me like no other. That’s a scary and vulnerable thought. However that’s what I’ve always wanted and taking the time to show him has got to be number one. When he & I aren’t meshing, ain’t nothing meshing or working top notch. And after all is said and done, we will be stuck with each other’s crazy butts when these hooligans leave the nest.
1. I’m pretty important too.
The number one thing I learned while taking my FB vacation, is that I deserved it. I like most women, put everyone ahead of myself. I had to take a step back and remember that I’m important too. Unplugging helped me remember that I do like other things. I planted flowers for the first time in a long time. I remember how much I like to get dirty and be in nature. Walking barefoot without feeling bad about it. I enjoyed mindless tv shows and caught up on other stuff like this. Writing has never been something I’ve been good at or set out to do. It is more of a therapy for me. It feels good to get it out. My home has also been sorely neglected for about 2 kids now. Lol And although I don’t love to clean, it was great to purge things and organize. It helps my busy brain. Sitting in our mess can make for a messy mind. Being at home all the time has its perks, but that is not one of them. I had some time to reflect on what I want. It was weird. By nature I put others first. I enjoy it. It’s who I am. However, I do look forward to taking a break more often. Im going to put myself higher on the list. And with me comes my mess and also my faith in God that he has a plan for it all. I pray everyone does the same for themselves once and awhile. You deserve it!